Being in a relationship and being confused is hard. You want to be happy and to be with the person that you love but what if they don’t really love you back? It can be hurtful if they don’t really care about you, but you deserve to know. This is a chance that you can stay in the relationship or that you can get away while you can.
Signs He is Pretending to Love You
There are signs that he is pretending to love you, and these include:
Not Feeling Loved
If you are in a relationship and you don’t feel loved or you feel insecure, you might wonder if he loves you at all. What do you think about when you think about someone that loves you? Can you think of people that you aren’t confused about?
If you are able to feel that they love you, but you can’t tell if your man does, chances are that he is just pretending.
Getting Nothing from It
Another sure sign is that he is giving you nothing out of the relationship. He should be telling everyone around him about you and showing you off. If he isn’t doing these things then he is probably just enjoying being in a relationship without making it serious for you.
Don’t let him waste your time and find someone that is happy to be with you and to show you off.
Sharing His Feelings or Thoughts
Maybe you find that he is not sharing his feelings or thoughts with you and this leaves you confused. This can be a red flag and one you need to not ignore. If he loves you, he should want to share things with you that have happened to him.
When this isn’t happening, he might not even love you at all.
You Make All of the Effort
When he doesn’t make an effort to talk to you or to go out with you, don’t make excuses for this behavior. Chances are that he doesn’t really love you and that he isn’t going to change to make an effort into your relationship.
He Is Always Changing
Your man should love you no matter who is around you. If he is not making you feel loved or special when other people are around you, this isn’t real love. He might not even want you. This isn’t your fault and once you notice this, you might need to get away. Don’t let him be hot for you today and then when his family is around, he becomes cold.
Your Relationship is Unknown
Everyone should know about your relationship and if he is keeping it private then there is a reason. He should never be hiding you from anyone in his life. Even if people around him don’t approve of you, he shouldn’t be acting like he is single.
Ask him why he is acting like this and if he refuses to tell you then it might be time to walk away. A man that loves you will show you off.
Inside Jokes
Every cute couple has inside jokes. If you don’t have these then you probably aren’t as in love as you thought. If you want to know if he is pretending to love you, look for this sign.
Doesn’t Call You
A guy that likes you is going to go out of his way to make you feel good and to feel special. He will find any excuse to talk to you. If he is committed to you then he will call you and come and see you.
If he doesn’t take time for you then he probably doesn’t have the same feelings that you have.
Feeling Unhappy
When you are with someone that you love there should be utter joy and happiness. If you are lacking in that then chances are you aren’t with someone that loves, you. Be honest with what you are feeling and face that he might not love you. Ask yourself these things:
- Do you deserve to be unhappy in your relationship?
- Do you feel sad that you are missing out on something better?
- Are you going to waste time on someone that doesn’t love you?
Your Feelings
You have feelings and these feelings should matter. Your man should take into consideration the feelings that you have at all times. When he doesn’t do this, he is just being mean to you and he is not doing things to make the relationship better. Don’t be a victim of him and find a guy that wants to validate who you are and what you feel.
Making Him Happy
You shouldn’t be in a relationship that is one sided. If your man doesn’t value you and you are the one always trying to make him happy, he doesn’t love you. Make him put action to what he tells you and make him make you happy for once.
He Flirts
Your man should never be flirting with another woman. If this is happening then you need to get out before you really get your heart broken. Don’t even take time to respond to this, just get out.
Shallow Talk
Talking to your man should be beneficial to both of you. There should be strong things that you talk about. If you are only talking about shallow things then this is never going to go anywhere. A man that is serious about you will talk about things that are important to both you and him.
His Attention
If he is giving his attention to everything but you, there is a problem. He needs to make sure that he fully loves you and respects you and that he is giving his attention to you and to you only.
Manipulates You
Some men are the master manipulators. If you feel that this is happening to you, run. If he is always acting like a victim or is gaslighting you, this is a sign he doesn’t love you. Don’t believe him and don’t trust him.
Not There When You Need Him
Your man should be there when you need him. He should be there for the good and the bad. He needs to be there when you are in pain or when you are happy. He won’t be worth being with if he can’t be with you in all times.
There Used to Be Good Times
If there are more bad times than good times, then this is a bad sign. It might be time for you to move on. The honeymoon phases is a time when things are good but after that fades and you find that you aren’t enjoying the relationship, find something else to get yourself into instead of heartbreak.
Lying
There should be no lying in your relationship. If your man is lying to you then he is definitely pretending to love you and he is fake. Honesty is what makes or breaks a relationship.
He Doesn’t Care About Your Life
A man that is pretending to love you will only care about their own life and not yours. He won’t ask you how you are or what you are doing and he won’t ask you how you are feeling. This is a huge red flag.
Feeling Disappointed
When you are always feeling disappointed, this is not good. You need to have a man that makes you feel happy and that wants to complete you. Find a man that isn’t out to hurt you or to disappoint you.
Does He Love Me?
If you have noticed any of these signs, chances are that he is pretending to love you. It can be hard to leave someone that you have a history with but if he isn’t giving you what you need then it might be time to move on without him.
Don’t stay with someone that isn’t going to give you back the love that you give them. Find someone new and live a happier life.
