Be with Someone Who Isn’t Fake

You should be with someone that you’re happy with and someone that loves you. There are some relationships that start out as love, but the love slowly fades away. You might feel like you’re with someone that is faking their love for you. There are some signs that you should look for so that you can understand what is going on in your relationship and you can decide if you should leave or stay.

• He Won’t Commit

He might feel pressured to be with you if he doesn’t know if he wants to commit to you or not. He might have had bad relationships in the past and now he isn’t sure that he wants to do that again. Or he might be someone that is afraid of commitment.

The truth is, you would be better off to be with yourself only than to be with someone that doesn’t really love you. It is important that you find a partner that cares for you and one that is real with their love. Notice these things:

• • If he keeps bringing up his age because he thinks he is smart.
  • His friends have all settled.
  • He doesn’t seem to want to move forward in the relationship.
  • He is taking things really slowly.
  • He seems like he is faking the love.

This can mean that he is with you because he feels forced and he is faking his love for you.

• Feeling Pressured

Another reason that he might be faking love is that he feels he is being pressured. He might have family or friends that want him to find someone, or he might have had a personal setback with romance in the past and so now he just feels that love is an obligation and not something he really wants.

The pressure he feels might be something you are doing to him by trying to get him to move forward in the relationship. He doesn’t know if he should walk away or if he should just fake his love for you because he feels in it too deep. Find out what he is feeling before you make assumptions and communicate with him.

• He Isn’t Showing Love

When you first started dating you knew beyond anything that he loved you. If things have changed and now, he seems distant or he isn’t meeting your needs, this can be a sign that he is forcing himself to love you.

You may feel that you have to work hard to get him to show you attention or to love you and even though everyone has a different love language, you should know if he loves you. Here are some things to ask:

• • Do you know he can do better in the relationship?
  • Do you feel he is not kind to you?
  • Did he used to show care more?
  • Has it always been this way but you know its not what you want?

You need to find out what you want and make sure that you are embracing your worth. Don’t let someone treat you the way that you don’t want to be treated. Find out if you’re with the right person or if you need to let them go.

• He is Up and Down

Sometimes he shows you love tremendously and sometimes you feel that he doesn’t love you at all. He should always let you know what he feels and where he stands but if you’re in a place where you feel that he doesn’t care about you sometimes then you need to find out why.

This could be a sign that he isn’t in love with you and so the feelings that he is showing you are real and the way he is treating you is how he really feels even if he didn’t mean to go that way. Maybe he isn’t ready for a serious relationship right now and maybe you should stop waiting.

• There Seems to Be No Future

Even though you’re together he doesn’t treat you like it is something that will last forever. He might put other people before you and meet his own needs over your own. He might love you, but he probably doesn’t love you as much as you hope he does.

The relationship might not even be everything you wanted it to be and even if he is trying to love you and wants a future with you, if he doesn’t show it then you will feel that he is distant and that he isn’t close to you.

You sometimes have to slow down in relationships and let things flow as they are. Instead of being the only one giving though, step back.

• He Doesn’t Treat You the Best

He might be kind to you sometimes, but he might not be meeting all of the needs that you have. He also might be treating you poorly by cheating on you or having a crush on other women.

Rather he has done small things that have turned you off or he has done big things, you need to love yourself enough to let him go. If he doesn’t care about you or want, you, then you need to let him move on. This isn’t selfish because you need to have a strong sense of self.

The relationship might be one-sided and if you’re the only one giving then you should not have that, and you can’t let him be disrespectful to you.

• Taking a Break

If your partner tells you that he wants to take a break, then chances are that he has been faking his love for you. It seems like he has gotten to the point where he needs to have some time off and if this is the case then you need to give him that break.

When you ask him if he is ready to commit to you and he wants a break, you need to make sure that you’re respecting his feelings and if you give him the time and he comes back, it is probably meant to be but if he doesn’t want to get back together then you can move on and find someone that really loves you.

• He Wants a Different You

No man should ever try to change you or make you be someone that you aren’t. He should love you for who you are and if he can’t accept that about you then he probably doesn’t really love you.

You need to ask yourself if you are the right person for him and if he wants you to change so much and not be who you are then this is a big sign that you aren’t the right person. Maybe he fell for you for different reasons and now he wants something different.

Don’t take it personally and think that its your fault. A man can move too fast in a relationship, and this can cause him to not see the real you from the start. This is on him and not on you.

• He Doesn’t Like Change

Another thing that might be keeping him with you is that he doesn’t like to have to change things. He doesn’t like the inconvenience of having to move or having to meet someone else. Instead of talking about it and figuring out how to make things better, he just stays and fakes his love for you.

This can be hurtful because you know that he doesn’t have the care for you that you have for him. The best thing for you to do is to show him you aren’t an option and that you can move on without him.

• You Think He Makes a Better Friend

You might love him, and he might have a love for you, but he might not be in love with you. You want to move on without him, but you want to stay friends because you know that together you are great friends.

Even though this happens sometimes, it is okay. He might be staying because he doesn’t want to hurt you and the key is that you can move on, and you can stay friends if you can move on before things become bitter.

• What if He is Faking His Love for You?

If your man is faking being in love with you because he wants to move on without hurting you, it can still hurt but you can have peace with this. Of course, make sure that you know for sure that this is what is happening before you make any moves. Some couples go through hard times that they are able to work through.

When to Leave

You should never force someone to stay with you if they don’t love you. Do you deserve something more and does your partner? If so, the best thing that you can do is to move on from each other and do what feels right.